written two nights ago
The road from my new home into town is lined for several stretches on one side with thorny brambles and little growing bunches of blackberries. From the first day I was here, I tried picking and eating one or two experimentally. Today, I plucked small handfuls as I walked along, and found that many had grown soft and sweet and tasty. A couple of times, someone along the road has given me an odd look about it; someone laughed, someone asked weren't they good? And I felt I was being judged. I wonder if I am committing some faux-pas by "stealing" someone's berries. I don't know. I enjoy the forage, although not the judgement, which may be real or may be imaginary, as it so often is.
I ran some group games with my friends the other night, and got to enjoy their company, carefree and casual as it used to be, although the internet connection hosted on my phone does not support much, and several times the sound of the Jackbox game and all the voices just blended together into low screechy metal noise for several seconds until it jumped forward and began to update again. Still, it was fun. My housemate and host suggested a website I should visit to get a better deal on home broadband than I was able to find on my own, Just One Switch or something like that. I haven't called them yet though.
I am procrastinating on continuing my job search. I am anxious of failure and reluctant, highly tempted to just escape into socialising and play. I know the trap. I know the only thing for me is to set myself to the task and pursue it for as long as it takes. I still have my friends' support, of course. They are still willing to help me along with rewards, and my dear Samedi even mentioned that she would be willing to put a foot down and be firm with me if I needed that from someone. Perhaps I will enlist her. But then perhaps not yet. I am askitter and distracted, somewhere deep in my mind where I hardly even think it from moment to moment. I made my arrangements yesterday to meet Eoin again this Friday.
There is also the fact that I have been staying up late and often had a hard time staying awake before 2 PM or so. It is tempting to blame this on some species of jetlag, but it seems so characteristic of me when I'm in a position of stressful uncertainly that I feel that would be rather unfair. I make the walk through the bramble-sided path into town and back again, my mind mostly blank, the silence filled with podcasts or music. I begin to suspect that there is a roiling space somewhere were a hundred things lie waiting to be said, and perhaps I would feel better after I said them... only I am very reluctant to take the time to lie still and quest after that place, which may be difficult to find and painful to open. I think it will come open soon anyway.
Well then... I put to myself: Would it not be better for our meeting if I went there, opened the tense place and heard the messages there myself, so that I would know what they say and had some time to think over them before I face Eoin? I feel reluctant, and the reluctance feels similar to doubt, but I suspect it is only reluctance to do something difficult and uncomfortable. I sit typing in sticky clothes, worn for a couple of days. I could use a bath and a change. My bath, and the bathroom sinks here, have almost no water pressure. The custom in this house, apparently, is to run the hot water heater a little while and fill a bucket with water of a temperature which is comfortable, and run it over oneself with a measuring cup. It feels very quaint, very old-fashioned, in a way remniscient of my early childhood when I would sit in a bath and use a yoghurt container to pour water over my head in waves, or discover and delight in the trick of setting it so that it would form a sort of air seal and the water would stay in the upturned plastic tub, sitting on my head like a sea crown.
I did a load of laundry yesterday. Like many other things, that seems in some details delightfully old-fashioned. We have a dryer, but my house-mates usually hang their clothes to dry, avoiding the electrical drain. I followed suit, and hung remaining small garments in my bedroom, having run out of room I could reach on the line. I took them down today, surprised they were dry so soon, but content. I will see whether line drying makes them uncomfortable, and let that influence my attitude towards continuing to do my laundry this way.
I think a moment of my family. I hope they are well. I wonder what they would think of me, if they could see over my shoulder, a snapshot of the life I am living at just this moment. I wonder if they think of me at all much. Should they? I sigh. My mind feels heavy and confused, paralysed by the ready distractions in each direction from firm movement in each other direction. I'll set the water to warm. I may not be sure of anything else just now, but I can certainly use a bath.
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